so last night i had a my best friend who is married and my brothers wife at my house... my brother died about 2 years ago... i found out this morning that they hooked up while everyone else was asleep... WHAT THE FU*K... like seriously... it was my brothers wife and my best friend is married... he knows it was my brothers wife and im friends with his wife... what the f do i do... im so fu*king mad i dont know what to do... i feel really disrespected...i wish i never found out.... i needed to vent.. sorry yall... but i figured yall are like the dysfunctional family everyone wants so i would vent here...
any suggestions would be great
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You can see it as the fact that its something they were willing to do and risk alot of things for, yeah it does piss you off, but if you see it rationally its not really an issue that should be dealt with by you.
on the other hand, ( and my personal opinion) is that they did something wrong, specialy if he is married, and its all going to depend on how much of a friend he is to you regardless of the fact that they hooked up. Do you see him as a friendly acquaintance or is he more like family. If he is like family close then its that much more disrespecting and insulting and you have to make sure that he understands that what he did cant be tolerated by you. You can have this go in a very chill way and just talk to him about it, but i have found out that when people are that close to you they tend to see it as a waaaay lighter issue then it might be. I personally would make him sweat it by telling him that if he ever disrespected anyone like that again some info might leak to people that dont want to know it. Even if he is a close friend. its just things that shouldnt be happening. ( and its not like i condone trying to fix everyone elses problems, but if i was in that situation thats exactly what i would do.)
life brings us alot of dilemas and annoying choices, tough part is knowing that none of the decisions we make are right or wrong, just different and we have to live with whatever consequences we bring upon us with our decisions.
thanx for the help yall... it sucks cause he is like family... im going to remove myself from life for a few days.. well atleast the part that concerns those two.. try and figure out how to break it to this fool that i know... i really dont want to be the one that tells his wife... see... #### him for putting me in this situation... and #### her... aaaarrrrggghhhhhh...
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my wheels have hollow cores where i store my crack rocks, it leaves more space in my pockets for bigger guns to stick people up with.
thanx for the help yall... it sucks cause he is like family... im going to remove myself from life for a few days.. well atleast the part that concerns those two.. try and figure out how to break it to this fool that i know... i really dont want to be the one that tells his wife... see... #### him for putting me in this situation... and #### her... aaaarrrrggghhhhhh...
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It's pretty normal to feel angry and frustrated, so taking a few days off might do you good.
I guess reacting from that anger will make you feel good for a short time, but on the other hand, it only ads another sequence to a negative interaction.
Give yourself some time, untill this clouded water becomes clear again.
That might allow you to see how your friend and your brothers wife were blinded by a superficial desires, making them to forget what really is precious in their life and what makes life worth living.
Focusing on that empathy will allow you to preserve what is precious in your life.
(I know, it's easy to say this when not personally involved.)
we can all give you advice BUT u r the one who has to live with it.....
do/or don't do what u know u can rest at night doing. if u know in your heart what is right then no matter what u do it is right. u have to look yourself in the mirror. also, in my opinion this guy is disrespectful, and not any kind of friend i would want, especially in my house. Plus odds r he would do this action with anyone's wife, including yours. Of course all the blame isn't on him.
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similar thing happened to me bro. i confronted him about it. me and my girlfriend broke up. they didnt hook up but he was in love with her nowhere near the level of what happened to you. but you get the jist. anyways id say talk to him about it tell him #### like that wont fly and that what he did was f^ck up.
me and my friend are basicly brothers now. we both know our bounderies and we dont cross them.
talk to him about it. other wise it will eat at you forever until you explode. and when you explode it will be much worse. trust me.
goodluck bro.
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Did you know before hand your friend cheats on his wife? And if so, did it not matter until now?
Being that your sister in law is now a widow (sorry 'bout your brother). Your friend is the only one that is really a lyin; cheat.
I walked in on a married buddy of mine getting a bj once.. he claimed it wasn't cheating (tried pulling a Bill Clinton) We had been friends for 20+ years.. he refused to see any harm in it, as long as his wife didn't know...We are no longer friends, and I lost most all respect.
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Did you know before hand your friend cheats on his wife? And if so, did it not matter until now?
Being that your sister in law is now a widow (sorry 'bout your brother). Your friend is the only one that is really a lyin; cheat.
I walked in on a married buddy of mine getting a bj once.. he claimed it wasn't cheating (tried pulling a Bill Clinton) We had been friends for 20+ years.. he refused to see any harm in it, as long as his wife didn't know...We are no longer friends, and I lost most all respect.
until now i thought he was a perfect husband... he is older to me and ive actually looked up to him in alot of ways... until the other day... im still so ####### bent i cant think straight about it... i know she isnt in the wrong just him... but ####
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my wheels have hollow cores where i store my crack rocks, it leaves more space in my pockets for bigger guns to stick people up with.
the way i see it they are both wrong. he is married and she knows that. if she was unaware of the fact that he is married then he would be the only one wrong. also i think her actions are just as ####ed up. they are both adults and both made a bad choice. you can either chose to forgive your friend and move on or harbor these feelings and let them consume you. my suggestion is to sit down and talk to your friend about what happened and let him know how his actions are affecting you. after that you have to make a choice how this changes your friendship. i feel bad for you man #### like this really sucks. hope it all works out. one last thing don't just blame your buddy.
i gues i worded that wrong... i do believe that both are wrong... she knew that he was married... they both made a bad decision.. i guess im just more mad at my friend because i looked up to him and the way he handled his family life... my dad was a jackass.... so hes been what ive had to base my parenting/; family skills off of in a way ( cant figure out how to explain my thoughts).. im going to talk to the both of them and tell them whats up... im not going to tell his wife thats not for me to do... although i kinda feel i should... but no... i will be telling the both of them if they ever put me in this situation again they are cut... casue this sh!t aint cool
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my wheels have hollow cores where i store my crack rocks, it leaves more space in my pockets for bigger guns to stick people up with.
what the F*ck
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