Is being nice worth it?

[Longbord1]

In my opinion I feel as though I am nothing but nice to people. I try to help them, I will often give them stuff, I will not make fun of them if I know it may hurt them, and I don't hurt people for fun.

Is it worth it to be nice? Even by being nice it never ceases to fail me how people can be such assholes and just crap all over you. Should i just become a giant asshole and start making fun of everyone and putting everyone down? It's not my nature but should I?

Or should I just ignore it because the people who are mean, negative, and sadistic have no sunshine, happiness, and or are making up for something inf there life.

You know how people say everyone has a place on this Earth?

Well maybe my place is to be the punching bag for everyone malicious and insecure on this world and make them feel better about themselves.

Imput is greatly appreciate.

[Birdman87]

i just ignore those i dont like, or who are jerks. Theres no need to subject yourself to others comments or harsh behaviors.

BTW, if I'm ever a jerk to you, or anyone else, im definitely joking.
Unless you're Sherpa, or Worldwide, in which case, i actually do hate you

[Longbord1]

i just ignore those i dont like, or who are jerks. Theres no need to subject yourself to others comments or harsh behaviors.

BTW, if I'm ever a jerk to you, or anyone else, im definitely joking.
Unless you're Sherpa, or Worldwide, in which case, i actually do hate you

Congrats! you just cheered me up a little bit!!

[Birdman87]

good man.
now, if it would stop raining, i could go ride my Turner, which would cheer me up...

[Brian Holden]

Being nice to people sucks, nice guys will always finish last

[Skinart]

Being nice, if you do it to be thought of as nice--wast of time. If you do it because it genuinely is
your nature, or because your honor dictates it, it is your own reward to stand apart from your tormentors.

Go rent the old Jimmy Stewart movie 'Harvey' and watch it. My dad made sure I watched it. And
I am the richer for it.

They have a line in there, about how you can be "Oh so nice, or oh so clever".

Another great rental, the anime series 'Irresponsible Captain Tylor". The central theme is similar:

Do as you like, and in all you do, do your best. Then await Heaven's Judgement. You did your best--which is more than most.

Very uplifting stuff I think. And funny to the gills without relying on fat jokes, toilet humor or
inflicting tremendous amounts of pain.

Some pain though--pain is the source of humor after all. It hurts too much to NOT laugh. And thus
you attain catharsis.

Or per Hamlet "To thine own self be true" the rest is all ballocks anyway.

[shapeshifter]

heheheheh...
you can be nice...
just don't let people know it.

[HerBDerb]

Should i just become a giant asshole and start making fun of everyone and putting everyone down? It's not my nature but should I?

That's what I did... twat.

But seriously, just be yourself.

[GPymp]

Go see a shrink.

These are common feelings for a person your age. But, when you don't seek help, your questions becomes gaping holes and then you become swallowed up in self doubt and depression.

You may have signs of depression already.


If you dont get yourself checked out, I will take a trip out to LI. Then you will need to see a orthopedist.

[Longbord1]

AHAHAHAHA thanks for the advice Pymp! Will do!

[Mile_High_Mark]

GPymp makes some good suggestions. Things are never easy (except for women from Jersey), but they can be made less difficult with help.

[drew]

Just replace the word "nice" with "cool".
Being cool to people is better in the long run, and yes girls too. People will say "he's a really cool guy" when you're not around. I believe in being yourself and if people don't like you who cares. People get sick of jerks.

[bpz]

Your place on Earth is whatever you want it to be; what you make of your time on this planet. There is no higher being, there is no single answer, there is no big guy in the sky watching you and making you do every little thing you do. You must not let other people's actions or words matter more than your own thoughts or instincts. If you doubt yourself like that, you'll only be in trouble in the long run.

Now, back to this lack of religion or politics...

[cosmiccase]

Lately I have found being a nice guy and wating around for people has gotten me more #### than I need right now. Im getting sick of being nice to everyone and then in turn having them talk #### behinde my back. Being nice, not worth the return. Thats just me.

[Skinart]

Cosmiccase, if you are nice for the return from other people, you aren't really being nice are you?

Don't be nice for what it gets you, be nice for who you see in the mirror.

[bucksaw87]

why do douchebags always get all the chicks? i mean, i'm not ugly, i'm quite a nice guy, and i'm not gay, but i got a lot of girls who are friends, but none of them want to be bf/gf...am i TOO nice?

help ssg or anyone else who's a girl!

[Birdman87]

im just a naturally nice dude, with a mean sense of humor...

hm...

it must be my bad ass alter ego that gets the girls

[drew]

help ssg or anyone else who's a girl!

DON'T listen to ssg whatever you do.

[cosmiccase]

Cosmiccase, if you are nice for the return from other people, you aren't really being nice are you?

Don't be nice for what it gets you, be nice for who you see in the mirror.

I'm not being nice get things from people. My statment was misconstrued, completey. I was simply stating that lately I have been a little extra nice to a special person, and I haven't got a thing in return besides added stress and complexity to my life. This person, I'm not being nice to this person because I should get something in return, I'm being this way because I choose too. But instead of getting happiness in return I get added stress and nothing more.

[Ryanmiller406]

Be nice to nice people, be DICKS to DICKS!