Cheating

**getitrightsteve** · 12-09-2008 05:19 PM

Would you stay with or get back together someone that cheated on you?

What is everyone's thoughts?

I'm sure some of you have done it.

I tend to believe once a cheater, always a cheater. And people don't change, only situations.

Anyone disagree or what?

**Colton** · 12-09-2008 05:51 PM

no .

**Shimotakimas** · 12-09-2008 05:53 PM

no

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**mawsko** · 12-09-2008 06:00 PM

being cheated on:
i got back together with my SO after she cheated on me several times. the first couple of times, we were early on in the relationship and i found out months after. then she recently cheated on me twice with 2 different guys, one of them was an old friend of mine.

maybe once a cheater always a cheater can be derived from my experience.. but i believe that a person can change and i'm always willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. i told her that this was the last time. i was ready to break it off with her but she begged me so i said ok, one last chance and if anything happens, i'm gone.

you can call me stupid or foolish and sadistic, it wouldn't be the first time someone has told me this. but this is my first very serious long-term relationship (2 years in jan) and i'm determined to make it work because i know that i'm not going to be capable of feeling this way for anyone else fully. call me naieve and just young, i probably am.

but if i wasn't with my SO now and with someone else and they cheated on me, i wouldn't give them any chances and break up with them point blank with no hope of anything ever again.

cheating:
i have cheated on someone i was in a relationship with. we had been dating for about 5 months. not my best moments, and i did it several times although she only knows about 1 person, who happens to be my SO now.

you can ask me anything i'm cool with it. did something like this just happen to you?

**CRASS** · 12-09-2008 06:00 PM

fuck a ho. if she cheats once itll happen again... ive seen examples where chicks havent cheated on one guy for a long time, then cheats on all the boyfriends after, then wont cheat again on that original.. but that bucket dont seem to hold water with me..

i say kick her in the ovaries.

**getitrightsteve** · 12-09-2008 06:11 PM

Originally Posted by mawsko

being cheated on:
i got back together with my SO after she cheated on me several times. the first couple of times, we were early on in the relationship and i found out months after. then she recently cheated on me twice with 2 different guys, one of them was an old friend of mine.

maybe once a cheater always a cheater can be derived from my experience.. but i believe that a person can change and i'm always willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. i told her that this was the last time. i was ready to break it off with her but she begged me so i said ok, one last chance and if anything happens, i'm gone.

you can call me stupid or foolish and sadistic, it wouldn't be the first time someone has told me this. but this is my first very serious long-term relationship (2 years in jan) and i'm determined to make it work because i know that i'm not going to be capable of feeling this way for anyone else fully. call me naieve and just young, i probably am.

but if i wasn't with my SO now and with someone else and they cheated on me, i wouldn't give them any chances and break up with them point blank with no hope of anything ever again.

cheating:
i have cheated on someone i was in a relationship with. we had been dating for about 5 months. not my best moments, and i did it several times although she only knows about 1 person, who happens to be my SO now.

you can ask me anything i'm cool with it. did something like this just happen to you?

How old are you?

And yes, in a way. I was in a pretty serious relationship for about a year. I went to the beach with my friend for a week. She was pretty upset that I went because she constantly wanted to be with me. But I went anyway. She got drunk one night while I was gone and cheated on me. When I got back she told me, and said she didn't have feeling for me anymore and dated that other guy.

I pretty much just quit talking to her and pretended like she didn't exist. We work together and I don't even look at her. But her and that dude aren't together anymore and she has apologized to me saying it was the dumbest thing she ever did, she doesn't know why she did it.

My friends would kill me if they knew about me even typing this. Ha.

**mawsko** · 12-09-2008 06:27 PM

haha SHE'd kill me if she knew i was even typing this.

yeah she also said like, it was the dumbest thing and she had no reason to be mad or upset with me so there was no justification for what she did. well, there never is, but she didn't even have a lame excuse.

are you contemplating getting back together with her?

Originally Posted by getitrightsteve

And yes, in a way. I was in a pretty serious relationship for about a year. I went to the beach with my friend for a week. She was pretty upset that I went because she constantly wanted to be with me. But I went anyway. She got drunk one night while I was gone and cheated on me. When I got back she told me, and said she didn't have feeling for me anymore and dated that other guy

I pretty much just quit talking to her and pretended like she didn't exist. We work together and I don't even look at her. But her and that dude aren't together anymore and she has apologized to me saying it was the dumbest thing she ever did, she doesn't know why she did it.

My friends would kill me if they knew about me even typing this. Ha.

**getitrightsteve** · 12-09-2008 06:36 PM

Originally Posted by mawsko

haha SHE'd kill me if she knew i was even typing this.

yeah she also said like, it was the dumbest thing and she had no reason to be mad or upset with me so there was no justification for what she did. well, there never is, but she didn't even have a lame excuse.

are you contemplating getting back together with her?

In a very small way, yes. I'm not sure why. We sort of talked today and ended up hooking up. I just don't think it would be a good idea. But I guess I'm just having trouble letting her go.

And how old are you, again?

**Archy** · 12-09-2008 08:25 PM

People #### up. People #### around. Big ####### deal.

Forgive.

**mawsko** · 12-09-2008 08:51 PM

Originally Posted by Archy

People #### up. People #### around. Big ####### deal.

Forgive.

amen. peace and love!

**mawsko** · 12-09-2008 08:54 PM

Originally Posted by getitrightsteve

In a very small way, yes. I'm not sure why. We sort of talked today and ended up hooking up. I just don't think it would be a good idea. But I guess I'm just having trouble letting her go.

And how old are you, again?

oh sry, 17!

if you dont like taking advice from a teenager, don't

sorry i dont want to sound defensive but i get a lot of crap for my age, people like telling me to shut up. but i have always felt mature for my age. gonna shut up about that now!

well maybe you can see if you can take it slow into renewing the relationship.

if you're thinking about it, might as well do it and find out for yourself.

tell her if you are or aren't over it. try to get some closure before you dive back into the relationship. baggage = speed wobbles... not cool.

**Archy** · 12-09-2008 09:58 PM

Originally Posted by mawsko

baggage = speed wobbles

And like wobbles, it's all about teh fear.

**banksy** · 12-09-2008 11:18 PM

Depends on the situation, it's a case where generalizations are bad. Just watch the Sex and The City movie.

**TM_Cruzer** · 12-09-2008 11:34 PM

[QUOTE=banksy;1297295935]Blah, Blah, Blah.QUOTE]

Nice name.....
Apparently I just ordered your book.

**big_loaf** · 12-10-2008 12:43 AM

Originally Posted by getitrightsteve

She got drunk one night while I was gone and cheated on me. When I got back she told me, and said she didn't have feeling for me anymore and dated that other guy.

#### that ####. If she wants you back, tell her to hit the god damn road, that #### does not fly with me and I don't think anybody else should tolerate it either. She had no qualms about putting you through the grinder before, and I guarantee she'll do it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater rings true nine times out of ten for good reason.
My advice from experience is to forget about it, learn from the situation, and move on to bigger and better things.

...Or if you'd prefer, you could just lead her on to get your dick sticky again then dump that ho cold turkey. A little revenge never hurt anyone....right?

**banksy** · 12-10-2008 02:37 AM

Originally Posted by TM_Cruzer

Originally Posted by banksy

Blah, Blah, Blah.

Nice name.....
Apparently I just ordered your book.

or i could just be another guy with the last name Banks.

or I could just be a big fan of his work, seeing as I've owned the book for around a year now.

or both.

**alan** · 12-10-2008 03:43 AM

YouTube - Girls Are Not To Be Trusted

**TexasBomber** · 12-10-2008 04:24 AM

A very wise woman (Sweet Caterina) told me once,
"if you can be with the one you love, love the one your with".

**boarders mom** · 12-10-2008 06:35 AM

Each situation is different and individual. I used to think I'd be gone in a flash if someone cheated on me. It was a major sucker punch when he told me he had and wanted to stay together. We'd been married 12 years or so by then and had two kids, so I felt for their sake I had to try. But it takes two, and he was only giving it lip service. In his defense, he's a major alcoholic. We've been much better off without him, but it's been hard on the boy not having a male role model.
At 17, I'd say cut your losses. You don't want to be 27 with kids and be singing the same song.

**pennypusher** · 12-10-2008 07:21 AM

I tend to believe once a cheater, always a cheater. And people don't change, only situations.

steve, if the above is what you believe then you answered your own question.

personally and probably bad advice but from the age of 15-25 get all the fun you can,then worry about being serious.