Relationship problems... ANYTHING GOES!

[x__shianne]

Some girls drive me insane. This is a longboarding site, sure this is anything goes. But that kinda stuff is for myspace or something. Get it off here.

[Archy]

Cat fight?

[Jerrdan]

Cat fight?

Barf.
Girls are mean.

[AGENT WD-40]

What are your guys' opinions on dating friend's ex-girlfriends?

The tricky part of my situation is that I met the girl and we had hung out before I met her boyfriend, but now I'm friends with the guy...I guess I should just talk to him and see how he feels about it.

[ACIDAARON]

What are your guys' opinions on dating friend's ex-girlfriends?

The tricky part of my situation is that I met the girl and we had hung out before I met her boyfriend, but now I'm friends with the guy...I guess I should just talk to him and see how he feels about it.

I honestly think its fine if you talk to the dude. If its been a couple months since they broke up, the dust should have settled so go for it anyway!

[NC longboarder]

i agree with aaron talk to him, if its alright, go for it!

[pepperdro]

It's hardwired for girls to respond to force, power, control--anything that can be translated into: "this guy is gonna knock me up then go out and kill a mastodon and bring its heart back to feed our babies." Nothing to be ashamed of there. The stupid part is confusing false douche confidence with real man confidence.

No, I haven't seen "Year One" yet. But cavemen ftw.

you've just been sigged!

Some girls drive me insane. This is a longboarding site, sure this is anything goes. But that kinda stuff is for myspace or something. Get it off here.

Yes it's a longboarding site, but it's also a way for mass people to communicate. Thus the Anything Goes section. People have lots of other stuff to talk about besides longboarding, and we develop friendships and trust with some of the people here. If you don't like this thread, don't read it. end of conversation.

[BUboarder]

I honestly think its fine if you talk to the dude. If its been a couple months since they broke up, the dust should have settled so go for it anyway!

that absolutely depends on how long the relationship was. if one of my guy friends came to me right now and asked if i was cool with him going after my ex, i'd more than likely not have very good things to say/do to him...

[AGENT WD-40]

that absolutely depends on how long the relationship was. if one of my guy friends came to me right now and asked if i was cool with him going after my ex, i'd more than likely not have very good things to say/do to him...

Yeahhhh, I'm pretty sure thats how this guy will react too. He still gets irritated when someone jokes about getting with his ex-ex g/f, let alone this one. I also found out the two of them have been talking again recently, so who knows whats going to happen between them now anyways.

It just sucks because I know the girl is into me and I know I am into her too, but the situation is just too complicated and will result in too many problems if I pursue her. If it was meant to happen, it will work out that way...

In the mean time, I'm just going to stay positive and enjoy the single life haha.

[BUboarder]

.....but the situation is just too complicated and will result in too many problems if I pursue her

good judgment right there man. respect your guy friend too--you don't have the inside info on their relationship from then or now so you really have no idea what's going on. the only people who will ever have the whole picture in any relationship are the two who are or were in it.

If it was meant to happen, it will work out that way...

truth

[OutOfLine]

Barf.
Girls are mean.

Yes they are. Thats why I rather chill with guys all day.... my guy friends are beyond chill. Theyre just so freaking badass I love them to death. Girls suck.

[ACIDAARON]

Here is a little thing that has been weighing me down for a month.
Since my GF and I broke up a month ago, I have felt ashamed. Apparently I was manipulative, but I don't know. It wasn't like i was trying to be or anything. A 2 year relationship ended just like that. A simple snap of a finger.

The question is, what gives me any right to be mad if that significant other cheated. Why, when I see her hanging around all my friends, especially one of my close friends that she has a crush on, do i get upset/mad/sad/depressed. Yeah, our love died, and it was at one point so strong and so amazing. Now I don't even know why people (myself included) even get mad at their significant other if they are flirty with other people or go so far as to have sexual relationships with other people. Why do couples take possession of love. Why does it have to be all ours, no one else can have it. Why did that love that i cherished more than anything else in the world, have to be mine only. Am I so selfish??

Yeahhhh, I'm pretty sure thats how this guy will react too. He still gets irritated when someone jokes about getting with his ex-ex g/f, let alone this one. I also found out the two of them have been talking again recently, so who knows whats going to happen between them now anyways.

It just sucks because I know the girl is into me and I know I am into her too, but the situation is just too complicated and will result in too many problems if I pursue her. If it was meant to happen, it will work out that way...

In the mean time, I'm just going to stay positive and enjoy the single life haha.

In this world it all boils down to what you want. Don't give a flying #### about other people. 99.9% of them don't give a #### about you. Aside from friends. And a true friend would let it go.

[CRASS]

What are your guys' opinions on dating friend's ex-girlfriends?

i make a strict rule these days to NOT date your friends' ex.

May i stress the use of the word FRIEND. haha.. if i know ya, but yer not my boy, its fuckin on and ima tear that up.

[Archy]

the only people who will ever have the whole picture in any relationship are the two who are or were in it.

Truest thing ever. Also everything ACID said.

[Ghost of York]

ahhhhhhhhhhhh dammit guys, why's it the hard route to be the good guy? why the hell does being the doucher have to be so much easier?!

so recently i've been talking to this girl i went to hs with and hadn't seen in a few years since...fb friends of course, you know. so then randomly we started chatting like a month ago. i don't even remember why...i doubt either of us does. w/e, beside the point.

so she's been dating the same guy for 7 years now, army guy...been deployed to afghanistan twice and was then in NC for training for a long time too. he just got back home like...a few weeks ago. anyways, she and i just chat like friends almost daily, and have seen each other in person a couple times now too (lol again, yay facebook) and it's cool. but now...now she and her guy are having some serious troubles and there's some other guy in the picture who wants her real bad and she's kinda not really sure what to do...and in all of this, i'm trying to be the friend who's there to be the stable, uninvolved one, be encouraging, be straightforward with advice, etc...you know the deal.

thing is, this girl is SUPER cute/sexy and i do like her a lot, but there's no way in hell i'm about to be "that guy" and involve myself in this with her. tonight...things got a little edgy from her end as she was chatting with me while tipsy and right after a huge fight with her bf. i'm trying to prevent her from saying or doing things i know she'll regret in the interest of her own relationship--i saw my own one of 3 years go down the drain partially due to another guy--but it's in my nature to be a big flirt too and i have to try so hard to supress that. it would be SO EASY to just step in and get mine, you know? but it's a constant fight to try to remain above the fray as a friend who genuinely does care.

*sigh* ...i'm goin to sleep

I'm leaving your entire quote up there because it is so great. Dude, you have no idea how much respect I have for you. You're showing a lot of maturity and self control in these situations...and it's great to see more "nice guys" out there. Keep it up bro, it'll all work out in the end.

Really??? My problem is cuz i have no hips but an ass and super fit/skinny legs... but not too much of a waist... jeans might fit everywhere BUT they will be to tight in the stomach area and cause major muffin top..... the only jeans that fit me perfectly are guess jeans so the only jeans i buy are like 200$ each.... fml!

OMG OMG OMG! Me too!

Heh heh. 8)

[st3v13]

i make a strict rule these days to NOT date your friends' ex.

May i stress the use of the word FRIEND. haha.. if i know ya, but yer not my boy, its fuckin on and ima tear that up.

You know what. Rules apply to remind you what will lead to a problem. There is a reason why your FRIEND and the girl broke up.
Even though alot of people don't liek to admit it the ppl you hang out with reflect who you are. How ever unconscious or consious that is to you.
So, consider why they broke up and wonder if that'd repeat itself in your life.
Man if my homie was dating my ex-gf i'd be happy... unless the ex-gf was on crack. Then i'd worry for my homie

BUT- my opinion(being a HOPELESS romanatic) is that if 2 ppl are meant to be together, you will break ever rule.

good judgment right there man. respect your guy friend too--you don't have the inside info on their relationship from then or now so you really have no idea what's going on. the only people who will ever have the whole picture in any relationship are the two who are or were in it.



truth

That is not truth
man ppl in a relationship don't even know the whole picture. We're in a society where lies rule everything. ADvertisements, businesses, friendships, etc. etc. etc.

You can call it euphamisms, protection, WHATEVER. The truth is that when a relationship hits the fan in an UGLY way. its b/c no1 saw the whole picture, b/c it was covered in the s**t we call "good intentions"


eeyyyyy 11:30 pm peace

[JohnW]

Yes they are. Thats why I rather chill with guys all day.... my guy friends are beyond chill. Theyre just so freaking badass I love them to death. Girls suck.

its true, bros don't get into immature fights like girls, good bros just chill

[Ghost of York]

its true, bros don't get into immature fights like girls, good bros just chill

soooo true mate

[ACIDAARON]

The truth is that when a relationship hits the fan in an UGLY way. its b/c no1 saw the whole picture, b/c it was covered in the s**t we call "good intentions"

Spot on!

10 epic breakups??

[Barf]

Barf.
Girls are mean.

Yeah, I know. But thanks for caring.