Relationship problems... ANYTHING GOES!

[big_loaf]

Hmm, dayquil or nyquil....dayquil or nyquil...


I appreciate the replies, and yes, apparently the best thing to do is to just jump in with both feet and see what happens. I'll report back if I ever get the guts up to do it

[pepperdro]

Khonsu is throwing out some great advice, listen to it. I know from personal experience that if you have been with someone for a certain length of time, you reach a point where you are either going to make it, or you're not going to talk for a while after the break up.

I was with my ex wife for almost 5 years(married), and it was 7 years (dating + marriage). When we separated, I felt like I was in over my head. I hadn't dated or even thought about interacting with women in a more intimate way for so long. Things change, and you have to adapt to how the dating world is at that time. It won't be easy, but it's necessary in the long run, because if you can get over your fears, you will find that it's a lot easier to pick and choose your relationships... because you already know what you want. Most people go dating because they have no clue what they ultimately want. They THINK they do, but most of the time it's just a big guessing game for them, and they slowely start to weed out undesirable traits, one person at a time. When someone has been in a relationship for 2+ years (estimated time frame), they begin to understand what qualities are ACTUALLY important for them. After I finally got over my "situation", I found it much easier to weed through the MILLIONS of women out there in the world, because I could basically just check things off a list that I have in my head.."smart-check, funny-check, agressive-check, bossy- RED FLAG!".

It's a lot easier for people to tell you to just go out and do it already, because it doesn't sound that hard, But, for people that have been through it, I can tell you it takes a lot of will power and emotional energy to handle the jump. Be brave, stay confident, and don't hesitate. If you see something that intrigues you, even just a little bit, investigate it, because everytime you do, it makes it that much easier for the next time.

If you want to stay friends with your girl, I suggest you bring this up to her sooner than later. She may be pissed now, but she will respect you and appreciate it later, when she grows a little and realizes that you did it before she passed her age of being able to go out and get crazy without people thinking ill of her, you know what I mean?

[big_loaf]

I was with my ex wife for almost 5 years(married).....

Married for five years at 23 years old?!

Srsly though, I think you nailed it in that post, even though I edited it for hugeness. You definitely brought up a good point about knowing what you're looking for in a woman, having spent several years in a relationship. Good points all around really; perhaps it's time to start practicing what myself and others have been preaching...

[whatsisname6]

Ok.
You depressed people go look at Ton's cats.

You other people.
Stop depressing me about women/dating.

Off to look at Ton's cats.....

[wooden]

distance during the summer sucks balls, especially because i'm always free to do anything while she is always off on camping trips and snowboarding trips (she lives in colorado). she'll be back in portland which is much closer in june, but the distance is hard as hell. she's definitely the most amazing person i've ever been with, but sometimes it's hard to just hold on and wait it out, particularly with all the other sh!t going on in my life right now (parents recently divorced, being in debt without a job..).

[BUboarder]

i came to a turning point tonight, but it was...oddly...really hard. i finally fell out of love with my ex

[Jerrdan]

Siggggggghhhh. So far, the only boyfriends I've had were retarded and had extremely screwed up views of reality. I don't know what to do when I get a responsible boyfriend, I'm so used to be being the one making sure they're doing with the crap they need to be doing. Such as: getting a job, checking oil, cleaning the rat cage, doing English papers, homework, etc..

See, some people can slack and do well, others cannot. I four-pointed my English class on papers written a day before they were due.
I don't like being bossy but it's terribly disgusting.


Are all kids of divorce seriously weird?

[Archy]

Are all kids of divorce seriously weird?

Do you want to be a normal kid? I mean, what exactly does that entail these days?

[Jerrdan]

Do you want to be a normal kid? I mean, what exactly does that entail these days?

All experiences I've had with boys with divorced parents are pretty much the same. They usually have some emotional issues. Like, my first boyfriend is 21, lives with his mom, and just emotionally warped. As was another one. It's kind a pain in the butt when I have to console a sobbing manboy every freaking holiday because he's never had a family. I get it, it's hard, but get over it. I can't quite explain it, but it's almost like their brain stopped growing at 12. It may just be my foul selection of boys or my lack of empathy. I hate when boys cry. Every once in awhile, go ahead, knock yourself out. Once every two weeks, I'll knock you out. Whatev.


It's probably just my selection, but I get hit a lot too. I'm really annoying. Terribly annoying, like really annoying and I get punched a lot, really hard. Leg, head, shoulder. They were either the only child or "da baby" of the family, so they don't know what it's like to be annoyed to my extent, so they punch me.

[pepperdro]

Ok.
You depressed people go look at Ton's cats.

You other people.
Stop depressing me about women/dating.

Off to look at Ton's cats.....

If you didn't want to hear about people's RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, you shouldn't have come into this thread, thanks. Have a nice day

It's probably just my selection, but I get hit a lot too. I'm really annoying. Terribly annoying, like really annoying and I get punched a lot, really hard. Leg, head, shoulder. They were either the only child or "da baby" of the family, so they don't know what it's like to be annoyed to my extent, so they punch me.

Ugh, annoyance is no excuse to hit a woman! The guys that have done that should have their balls removed with a rusty butterknife! They shouldn't be able to breed, or have sex. Guys like that need to be thrown in prison so that can be anally raped by some 300 lb. guy named Leroy.... I'm just saying...

[Archy]

Leroy's too nice a name. But otherwise I'm right there with you.

[BUboarder]

But otherwise I'm right there with you.

2nded

10upstandingguys

[whatsisname6]

If you didn't want to hear about people's RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, you shouldn't have come into this thread, thanks. Have a nice day

I was kidding.
There's some great advice in this thread and I'm just browsing through it, taking what I can for my life ahead of me.
And I was also saying to the people who said they had depression that Ton's cats would make them laugh, forget about some stuff.

[Frostie]

[curlywhit1]

Hey all. I just want to throw out a couple questions and see what you think. I have my own experiences and opinions, but I want to see what the guy's perspective is. Here goes...

Friendship before dating?

Are you at all intimidated or uncomfortable (put off) with girls who are more athletic or "tom boyish?"

Do you find it annoying if a girl is goofy and jokes around a lot?

Those are just a few questions on my mind at the moment. Just curious.

[pepperdro]

I was kidding.
There's some great advice in this thread and I'm just browsing through it, taking what I can for my life ahead of me.
And I was also saying to the people who said they had depression that Ton's cats would make them laugh, forget about some stuff.

My bad, I accept temporary retardation on that one. I will have to check out this Ton's cats when I get home, F*** Gov't computers...

Hey all. I just want to throw out a couple questions and see what you think. I have my own experiences and opinions, but I want to see what the guy's perspective is. Here goes...

Friendship before dating? Sometimes it works, other times it's a b!tch...

Are you at all intimidated or uncomfortable (put off) with girls who are more athletic or "tom boyish?" Personally, nah, although if she doesn't have a sexual, feminine side to her, it can be unnerving...

Do you find it annoying if a girl is goofy and jokes around a lot? I love women that can joke around and be comfortable enough to just let loose and not care if someone is judging them... it's called confidence.

[whatsisname6]

My bad, I accept temporary retardation on that one. I will have to check out this Ton's cats when I get home, F*** Gov't computers....

There are computers in Alaska?
Wait, there's a government in Alaska???
I thought you were a separate state, ruled by a dictator!

[HerBDerb]

[Jerrdan]

Do you find it annoying if a girl is goofy and jokes around a lot? I love women that can joke around and be comfortable enough to just let loose and not care if someone is judging them... it's called confidence.

Haha, I'm only confident around people fatter than me, old people that I work with , and other socially awkward people.

They think I'm 'effin hilarious.

[pepperdro]

There are computers in Alaska?
Wait, there's a government in Alaska???
I thought you were a separate state, ruled by a dictator!

hahaha, unfortunatly, yes, the military is up here, too. We have internet but it's balls slow! Trying to download music and movies takes all Night!!!

Haha, I'm only confident around people fatter than me, old people that I work with , and other socially awkward people.

They think I'm 'effin hilarious.

Well, I can tell you, it doesn't matter how you look. If you can find the confidence in yourself to not care what others are thinking, people notice, and will respond to your personality, instead of looks... unless you're super hot, because then they just stop paying attention...