Relationship problems... ANYTHING GOES!

**a_speck_of_dust** · 10-20-2009 07:45 PM

had my eye on this one chick for awhile. shes really cute and we mostly talk about music when we see eachother. thing is though, my good friend likes her too, and hes my complete opposite. i play the blues, he plays metal, im an athlete, hes a couch potato, hes into drugs and booze, im... not. i dont know much about this girl, besides the fact shes into john mayer and slip knot. and since shes new to the school she hangs out with whoever her greasy chola mexican friend hangs out with, and the crowd shes getting into isnt my kinda crowd, but i know she doesnt fit in there.

so, yay, or nay?

**whatsisname6** · 10-20-2009 07:48 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

john mayer and slip knot

DOUBLE nay

**killerzombie163** · 10-20-2009 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

had my eye on this one chick for awhile. shes really cute and we mostly talk about music when we see eachother. thing is though, my good friend likes her too, and hes my complete opposite. i play the blues, he plays metal, im an athlete, hes a couch potato, hes into drugs and booze, im... not. i dont know much about this girl, besides the fact shes into john mayer and slip knot. and since shes new to the school she hangs out with whoever her greasy chola mexican friend hangs out with, and the crowd shes getting into isnt my kinda crowd, but i know she doesnt fit in there.

so, yay, or nay?

I think you should get to know her more before you start your move. The friend thing is going to be a bit troublesome unless you both are tight with each other, it could end ugly.

**lizardbowl12** · 10-20-2009 08:00 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

had my eye on this one chick for awhile. shes really cute and we mostly talk about music when we see eachother. thing is though, my good friend likes her too, and hes my complete opposite. i play the blues, he plays metal, im an athlete, hes a couch potato, hes into drugs and booze, im... not. i dont know much about this girl, besides the fact shes into john mayer and slip knot. and since shes new to the school she hangs out with whoever her greasy chola mexican friend hangs out with, and the crowd shes getting into isnt my kinda crowd, but i know she doesnt fit in there.

so, yay, or nay?

I'm gonna be honest, she might ry to go for couch potato metalhead dude. it seems like a common thing for girls to want to "fix" or "help" those kinds of dudes. and if her wierd chola is that greasy and is moving her into a bad crowd then you better get on that ####.

**a_speck_of_dust** · 10-20-2009 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by whatsisname6

DOUBLE nay

haha, go #### yourself

Originally Posted by killerzombie163

I think you should get to know her more before you start your move. The friend thing is going to be a bit troublesome unless you both are tight with each other, it could end ugly.

my friend and i are real close, hes the happy go lucky couch potato metalhead who can be friends with about anybody, we started playing guitar together back in 7th grade but we went our seperate ways. i dont think ill be as cool as he would if he got to her first

Originally Posted by lizardbowl12

I'm gonna be honest, she might ry to go for couch potato metalhead dude. it seems like a common thing for girls to want to "fix" or "help" those kinds of dudes. and if her wierd chola is that greasy and is moving her into a bad crowd then you better get on that ####.

she wouldnt do that, i know she wouldnt wanna "fix" him, and i shes told me shes dated people like him before so i dont know if my chances are high. as for the chola crowd, i might reinforce my no mexican dating policy. cant risk getting stabbed... again.

**AdmiralButterCrust** · 10-20-2009 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

had my eye on this one chick for awhile. shes really cute and we mostly talk about music when we see eachother. thing is though, my good friend likes her too, and hes my complete opposite. i play the blues, he plays metal, im an athlete, hes a couch potato, hes into drugs and booze, im... not. i dont know much about this girl, besides the fact shes into john mayer and slip knot. and since shes new to the school she hangs out with whoever her greasy chola mexican friend hangs out with, and the crowd shes getting into isnt my kinda crowd, but i know she doesnt fit in there.

so, yay, or nay?

Usher her into a group of respectable individuals.

**killerzombie163** · 10-20-2009 08:38 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

my friend and i are real close, hes the happy go lucky couch potato metalhead who can be friends with about anybody, we started playing guitar together back in 7th grade but we went our seperate ways. i dont think ill be as cool as he would if he got to her first

she might just be the type you wanna chill with instead of getting in deep. but still, just get to know her better because I dont think you can build a relationship revolving around her being cute and the topic of music. Now if you get her to longboard...i'm sure shes willing to try other things with you (by no means am i implying sexual activities, but if it works lol).

**tinypete** · 10-20-2009 09:04 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

as for the chola crowd, i might reinforce my no mexican dating policy. cant risk getting stabbed... again.

You got stabbed? Care to elaborate?

**Whereisnumnum** · 10-20-2009 09:08 PM

one time i saw this greasy short fat chola and i say to my friends "damn that mexicans greasy" and he turns around and hes eating a burrito. and he say whould you kids like some shirts. and he takes us to his car and he hands me a bad of american eagal shirt and drives away. it was wierd

**whatsisname6** · 10-20-2009 09:08 PM

Originally Posted by a_speck_of_dust

haha, go #### yourself

John Mayer and Slipknot???
That's like, the second worst combination of music I can think of.
By worst combination, I mean combined total of their amount of suck.
The first worst is Disturbed and Slipknot.

**jizmnky** · 10-21-2009 05:53 PM

my gf is 16, so am I... and she talks about us having kids all the time

... I'm fine with her talking about moving out of her parents and in with me and us getting married and whatever for the future, because i like that, it shows me that she really wants to be with me and not **** anything up between us

... but she wants kids... and she says she wants them now... kinda scary.. shes on birth control, good birth control, that she says she takes, but i cant always make sure shes always taking it

, but i kinda get afraid that shes going to do something

... like not let me pull out

... kinda scaaaary....

what are your thoughts?

**a_speck_of_dust** · 10-21-2009 06:00 PM

put it in her food

**Jerrdan** · 10-21-2009 06:52 PM

Originally Posted by jizmnky

my gf is 16, so am I... and she talks about us having kids all the time

... I'm fine with her talking about moving out of her parents and in with me and us getting married and whatever for the future, because i like that, it shows me that she really wants to be with me and not **** anything up between us

... but she wants kids... and she says she wants them now... kinda scary.. shes on birth control, good birth control, that she says she takes, but i cant always make sure shes always taking it

, but i kinda get afraid that shes going to do something

... like not let me pull out

... kinda scaaaary....

what are your thoughts?

Don't be such a jizmnky. Do what they do on Maury. Find a baby and make her take care of it.

**Bevan13** · 10-21-2009 06:54 PM

Originally Posted by jizmnky

my gf is 16, so am I... and she talks about us having kids all the time

... I'm fine with her talking about moving out of her parents and in with me and us getting married and whatever for the future, because i like that, it shows me that she really wants to be with me and not **** anything up between us

... but she wants kids... and she says she wants them now... kinda scary.. shes on birth control, good birth control, that she says she takes, but i cant always make sure shes always taking it

, but i kinda get afraid that shes going to do something

... like not let me pull out

... kinda scaaaary....

what are your thoughts?

i date a girl who was like that...my findings its all talk........

so the girl who i have kind of not really at times had a thing with is not talking to me YAY

**killerzombie163** · 10-21-2009 07:19 PM

Originally Posted by jizmnky

my gf is 16, so am I... and she talks about us having kids all the time

... I'm fine with her talking about moving out of her parents and in with me and us getting married and whatever for the future, because i like that, it shows me that she really wants to be with me and not **** anything up between us

... but she wants kids... and she says she wants them now... kinda scary.. shes on birth control, good birth control, that she says she takes, but i cant always make sure shes always taking it

, but i kinda get afraid that shes going to do something

... like not let me pull out

... kinda scaaaary....

what are your thoughts?

Really unless you guys know each other for all your life, its just all talk imo. sounds like she just wants to get in your pants and if things dont work out, leave.

**engebo_kelsey** · 10-22-2009 01:44 AM

Originally Posted by jizmnky

my gf is 16, so am I... and she talks about us having kids all the time

... I'm fine with her talking about moving out of her parents and in with me and us getting married and whatever for the future, because i like that, it shows me that she really wants to be with me and not **** anything up between us

... but she wants kids... and she says she wants them now... kinda scary.. shes on birth control, good birth control, that she says she takes, but i cant always make sure shes always taking it

, but i kinda get afraid that shes going to do something

... like not let me pull out

... kinda scaaaary....

what are your thoughts?

well, that unfortunately reminds me of my psychotic ex gf. she wanted to get married and have kids and all that right out of high school. as a concept, sure, it might seem cool. but it's not. fortunately i dumped her a month before i graduated. trust me on this one buddy, you don't want that. you're only 16, you have your whole life ahead of you. do you plan on continuing school once you're out of high school? if so, think about how difficult that will be with a wife and potentially children. keep in mind that you will change, and so will she. the biggest changes of my life occurred after i graduated from high school. now i'm 20, and i've been single for two years. personally, i think it's very helpful for self exploration. if you do plan on going to college, hopefully you will take some classes that make you think, and not just about school stuff, but about life stuff. i took a history class my first quarter in school, and since then, that class has changed the way i think about most of the things that go on in my life.

some of the best advice i've ever gotten from my mom when it comes to relationships is that you need to be able to survive on your own before you can survive with another person. in essence, you need to be able to live without her before you can live with her. think hard and good luck

**resu** · 10-22-2009 02:04 AM

@ jizmnky:
as good as it feels to loved in taht way by someone, its the fact that you dont trust her to take her birth control that should be raising alarm bells
without the trust it won't last...

Not trying to be funny or harsh or anything here but is she in love with you or the life taht you two could have together? i.e a place of your own, a ring and kids...

What does she wanna do with her life?

it sonnds a bit like a friend of mine who didnt know what she wanted to do with her life .. she had no direction and so threw herself into every relationship she had in the hope of it resulting in a baby

she tells me shes happy now .. but i think she didnt realise how much hard work a baby really is.

if in doubt .. skin up
do you wanna be paying for a baby a 16?

**Largeboarder** · 10-22-2009 07:34 AM

I'm having so much fun. No love, just flirting around with girls all the time! The pretty girl I've talked about in the past is here in the spanish class too..

So, yesterday I was outside the classroom and sitting on the floor, when I got up my ass was dirty.. A girl comes and says "Oh, you're aaaall dirty" and started gently "cleaning" me. Well that was cool hahaha

I almost said "You lucky you aren't baby! haha"

**Ghost of York** · 10-23-2009 08:15 AM

Originally Posted by jizmnky

my gf is 16, so am I... and she talks about us having kids all the time

... I'm fine with her talking about moving out of her parents and in with me and us getting married and whatever for the future, because i like that, it shows me that she really wants to be with me and not **** anything up between us

... but she wants kids... and she says she wants them now... kinda scary.. shes on birth control, good birth control, that she says she takes, but i cant always make sure shes always taking it

, but i kinda get afraid that shes going to do something

... like not let me pull out

... kinda scaaaary....

what are your thoughts?

Key point: You are 16 years old.
I know you really want to be all grown up and have sex and everything, but the truth is, adult things are to be left for when you're an adult. I'm not saying it's going to happen, but I've seen it happen to some of my closest friends. They start playing around, something goes wrong (she doesnt take her pills), and BOOM...you're a dad at 18. Let me tell you this. It F***'s up your life. Imagine trying to support a kid at 18. It completely wrecks your future. Trust me bro. Wait a few years.

**whatsisname6** · 10-23-2009 04:46 PM

Originally Posted by Ghost of York

Key point: You are 16 years old.
I know you really want to be all grown up and have sex and everything, but the truth is, adult things are to be left for when you're an adult. I'm not saying it's going to happen, but I've seen it happen to some of my closest friends. They start playing around, something goes wrong (she doesnt take her pills), and BOOM...you're a dad at 18. Let me tell you this. It F***'s up your life. Imagine trying to support a kid at 18. It completely wrecks your future. Trust me bro. Wait a few years.

Ever heard of abortion or going through puberty at 14?